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Embrace Introverted and Different Sides of Personality

Constance Tang
4 min readNov 16, 2021

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At work, people see me as focused and proactive, but they may not realise that I am actually introverted. While I enjoy being productive, I also need time to unwind and relax after a busy day. A friend once advised me to be the same person at work and at home, but I believe it’s important to be true to myself and embrace my introverted nature without any shame.

Cultural Bias Against Introverts

There is a common misconception that introverts are simply shy and passive individuals. In reality, introversion or extroversion are more about how one gains and uses energy rather than social skills.

Let’s be clear: we all have both sides.

Introverts can be social and expressive while also needing time to recharge their inner energy. This doesn’t make them any less authentic; it is just another aspect of their personality. In fact, many of the world’s most successful people, such as Warren Buffet, Mark Zuckerberg, Larry Page, Bill Gates and Barack Obama, identify as introverts. They have used their introverted qualities to excel in their careers, proving that being introverted is not a drawback.

The Strengths of Introvert

Introverts tend to be introspective and considerate, taking the time to carefully analyse situations before taking action. Their thoughtful and detail-oriented approach makes them well-suited for tasks that require strategic planning and research.

Some introverts may have concerns about speaking in front of others, fearing that they won’t communicate effectively during presentations. It’s important to put yourself in the audience’s shoes: would a reasonable person help you make decisions? Not at all.

People tend to be drawn to individuals who have clear goals, great purposes, good intentions and solid evidence. By emphasising shared values and utilising introverts’ strengths, such as active listening, you can increase your chances of success. In situations where you may not excel, consider reframing your perspective. For example, could you view giving a presentation as a chance to educate or share your thoughts?

Introverted Leadership

We may tend to think that only those who are outgoing and popular are fit to be leaders. But have you ever thought about what qualities are truly needed to earn respect and effectively lead a team?

Leaders don’t always have to be the life of the party or constantly cheerful. In my experience, the following qualities are key for garnering respect:

  • Skilful: showcase your skills and expertise humbly. Reflect on what you’ve learned in your past achievements.
  • Articulate and thoughtful: express your concepts and thoughts clearly and respectfully.
  • Mind your language and manners: think about how your words may affect others. It’s important for leaders to uphold the right principles.
  • Kind and friendly: work on being compassionate and considerate toward everyone, not just those directly involved.
  • Calmness: try to stay composed during stressful moments.
  • Forgiving and smile: even if you struggle with communication, a friendly smile can make you more approachable.

I enjoy taking on a supportive role rather than being in charge. I believe that teamwork and mutual respect for each other’s strengths are key to personal and professional growth. It’s important for each of us to recognise our own strengths and find the leadership or work style that fits us best.

Hybrid Workplace

Introverts and extroverts can both excel in the workplace, but is it beneficial to have a team with mix of personalities? Some employers prefer to hire individuals who share similar values and traits, maybe because they believe it leads to better interactions. However, effective communication is the most important aspect, regardless of someone’s personality or energy level.

Collaborating with individuals who have different backgrounds and perspectives can greatly enhance a team’s dynamics. Whether they are introverted, extroverted, or have a variety of traits and values, their unique contributions can bring more diversity and provide valuable opportunities for the team. Do you agree?

Adjusting your Footsteps

Introverts tend to tire more easily, so it’s important to recognise those signals. After social events, I often find myself feeling hungry and tired, even if the event wasn’t my cup of tea. It’s helpful to politely say no to less important activities and prioritise meaningful conversations with a small group of people. Don’t forget to take care of yourself by setting aside time to recharge before and after socialising.

  1. Arrive early: give yourself time to unwind, get ready, and make sure you look put-together.
  2. Bring comfort items: bring along things that will keep you comfortable and happy during the event, like snacks, drinks, a jacket, warm messages or accessories.
  3. Rest afterwards: take some time alone, relax and treat yourself

Everyone is a unique combination of introverted and extroverted traits, making us all special in our own way. It’s important to embrace our individuality without boxing ourselves into rigid categories. Embracing diverse personalities means recognising the value in different qualities, rather than seeing them as weaknesses. These words provide comfort and inspiration, serving as a reminder to show respect for introverts and celebrate the diversity of people around us.

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Constance Tang

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